So you want to attain personal fulfillment and deepen your self improvement journey… In order to understand where you’re at with your levels of self fulfillment — plus where you want to GO with it — you need to check in with yourself! What better place to begin than with a self fulfillment questionnaire?
What is the self fulfillment questionnaire?
This questionnaire provides you with 15 self discovery questions to help you understand whether you are living the life you most desire, and what changes you might need to make in order to increase your personal satisfaction and fulfillment (in both the little AND big choices you make in life).
You can view this personal fulfillment questionnaire for adults (I don’t work with kids or teens) as your starting point for measuring self-concept so as to create a fulfilling life. This will also support you if you are aiming for self actualization…
…or even if you simply want to work on self improvement and personal development!
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How to use the personal fulfillment questionnaire
These are more statements than questions — the self-discovery "question" component of it comes down to, "How often do you agree with this statement?"
With that in mind, for each of the following statements in our self fulfillment questionnaire, you can answer Yes, No, or Sometimes/Somewhat. For example:
- YES → You agree with the statement 90% or more of the time.
- NO → You agree with the statement 10% or less of the time.
- SOMETIMES/SOMEWHAT → You agree with the statement 40 - 60% of the time.
What about 10 - 40%, and 60 - 90%?
In that case, you can either:
- Add two extra categories (e.g. “Not Really” and “Usually Yes”), or
- Round up/down to the nearest answer (e.g. If your answer is about 20% of the time, you can round down to choose “No.” If your answer is 30% of the time, you can round up to choose “Sometimes”).
There aren't hard "rules" with this — it's more about what you're feeling and experiencing in general, to get a sense of your overall personal fulfillment.
Self Fulfillment Questionnaire
- When I wake up in the morning on workdays, I think to myself “Ugh, I don’t want to go to work. I wish it was the weekend” more than half the time (e.g. 3 out of 5 days of the week).
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- There’s at least one major life choice that I deeply regret making in my life (e.g. where you live, your career choice, etc), and it's something I ruminate about.
Yes, No, or Somewhat?
- At the end of the day, I often feel dissatisfied with how my day went — like I should have accomplished more or made different decisions or acted in a different way.
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- My “hobbies” consist of work, household chores, and watching TV… that’s about it (AKA my life revolves around work and family obligations, without the energy to do anything besides crash on the couch in the scraps of free time I get).
Yes, No, or Somewhat?
- I feel as though my worth/value is tied up in my job and/or what I do for others (e.g. being a parent or a caretaker for other people).
Yes, No, or Somewhat?
- When I think about the identities that I hold, they are all in relation to other people or external factors outside of me (e.g. my job title, being a daughter, etc), rather than personal interests or something that pertains solely to me.
Yes, No, or Somewhat?
- There’s a negative voice in my head that frequently tells me I’m not good enough, or that I should be farther along than I am, or that I’m lazy or stupid or ugly.
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- I don’t really know what I WANT in life — I’ve been “following the rules” for what I “should” do with my life for so long that I’m not sure what choices I’d want to make for myself, if I could do things differently.
Yes, No, or Somewhat?
- It’s difficult for me to make decisions in my life because I’m always factoring in what other people want me to do.
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- I don’t see much point in doing anything unless people KNOW I’m doing it — I thrive on external validation. I will often do things because it’ll “make for a great story,” rather than because I genuinely want to do those things on their own or for themselves.
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- I’m disappointed in who I am — I had a different idea for where I’d be at this stage of my life, and/or I wish I were more like someone else.
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- I care more about achieving goals and getting to the end result, rather than the journey and process it takes to get there (e.g. I often get impatient or frustrated along the way; the only thing that’s really enjoyable about accomplishment is when it’s actually DONE).
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- Mistakes and failures terrify me (e.g. I feel very small or fall apart after messing up, rather than picking myself up or searching for a lesson I can learn from it).
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- I trust what other people think, say, or do more than I trust in my own beliefs and thoughts (e.g. I often second-guess myself, and/or I’m quick to believe/agree with someone when they put me down).
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
- Even though I know what I want from my life, I don’t allow myself to have it (e.g. because I don’t believe I deserve it, or because I’m afraid to get what I truly want).
Yes, No, or Sometimes?
Tally up your self fulfillment questionnaire!
The above is NOT an exhaustive list to assess your personal fulfillment, but it IS a valuable way to get an overall sense for your current levels of personal fuflillment and where there's room for improvement.
After you've answered Yes, No, or Sometimes/Somewhat to each of the statements in the self fulfillment questionnaire, tally them up:
- How many Yeses did you get?
- How many Nos did you get?
- How many Sometimes/Somewhats did you get?
- If you added the additional categories of "Not Really" and "Usually Yes," did you lean more toward the No category or the Yes category (or are they fairly evenly matched)?
Did you get mostly Nos?
If you got 15 Nos, then congratulations — you are making beautiful progress on your journey to attain personal fulfillment!
But remember, “attaining” personal fulfillment is simply another part of the journey: it’s not a static destination.
When you attain personal fulfillment, it’s a state of being rather than a thing you’ve accomplished. We always need to continue actively making choices and living life in alignment with what personally fulfills us!
Psst… You are also a human being, not a static entity. You’ll grow and change over time — which also means that *what it is* that personally fulfills you will ALSO grow and change over time.
Did you get mostly Yeses, or mostly Sometimes?
Don’t worry — all it means is that there’s work you can do to become more personally fulfilled ♥
If you got even ONE Yes or Sometimes, that indicates that you are not living life to your deepest satisfaction and fulfillment… and if you got more than one Yes or Sometimes, then it’s even more important that you make some changes if you truly want to be personally fulfilled.
You deserve to experience personal fulfillment! You deserve to live a life that brings you meaning and deep satisfaction.
You deserve to live your life for YOU.
I’m here to help: as a Personal Fulfillment Coach, we can work together on this…
- Identify your “internal bottlenecks” and the ways in which you’re holding yourself back from personal fulfillment and your fullest potential.
- Explore what it is that you’re willing (and not willing) to change or do differently in your life.
- Co-create mindset shifts, thought exercises, reframes, habits, behaviours, and everyday actions — fully customized to your unique wants and needs and lifestyle — so as to DO and BE the change you desire.
- Design a safe, supportive environment for you to stretch your comfort zone with me as your guide (you don’t need to jump out of the boat without a life jacket in order to learn how to swim!).
- Compassionately challenge yourself and learn the advanced skills of deepening your intuitive muscle and building intrapersonal skills such as self honesty, self trust, self leadership, internal motivation, and more.
Let’s make it happen:
